"what sculpture is to a block of marble, education is to a human soul'

Joseph Addison

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The Bust of J.R.D.Tata

The Bust of J.R.D.Tata


"Believe nothing just because a so-called wise person said it. Believe nothing just because a belief is generally held. Believe nothing just because it is said in ancient books. Believe nothing just because it is said to be of divine origin. Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true.


HRS Main Block

HRS Main Block




Atha Shrimad Bhagwad Gita(First Canto) Before starting to understand the purport of the first stanza of Gita we have first to understand the meaning of the initial heading, "Atha Shrimad Bhagwad Gita". The very first 'Atha' word suggest that there must be some such philosophical approch to the problem Gita has tried to expalin and tackle. Ved Vyas starts with the word 'Atha' because he kept the philosophy of life in a different way than the previous ones(Budhha). The word 'Atha' points to some other school of philosophy which was that of Upnishadas and hence at the end of every canto of the Gita the word 'Upnishadsu' has been written. Gita is also an Upanishad. Upnishadas were written to explain the difficult knowledge of the Vedas written in short aphorisms of the original divinity. Time passed and the knowledge written in the Upnishads also became difficult for the common man to understand. It is through that Badarayana wrote his 'Vedantra Sutra' or 'Brahma Sutra' which tried to reconcile the philosophical thoughts written in many Upnishads. The Upnishads are mostly of renunciation thoughts to make them more wordly and practical Ramayan and Mahabharat epics were written. These two epics because of their fictional type of description, became very popular. Again we belive that Ramayan and Mahabharat are historical events where as if analysed properly turns out to be classical poetical work of Maharishi Valmiki and Ved Vyas. This whole social and spiritual picture was clear to Ved Vyas and hence he writes 'Atha' in very begining of the Gita. Then comes the word 'Shrimat'. 'Shri' means opulant and 'Mat' means opinion or intelligence which is needed in practical philosophy. The word 'Bhagwat' comes next. 'Bhag' means Wel-being and 'Vat' means the state accordingly. Hence Bhagwat means a state of complete well-being. The last word is 'Gita'verbally meaning a poem that is to be sung. There is an alphabet 'Ga' in Gita. 'Ga' means speed and 'Git' means momentum towards the desired end. Such speed towards the desired end is called 'Gita'. Thus 'Shrimat Bhagwat Gita' means opulant intelligence speeding towards the desired end of wel-being. The process of 'Git' is two fold. The person can individually go towards the effect of the song he sings and secondly he can take with him the persons emmotionally towards the same desired end of the song who hear him.This is the meaning of 'Git' and such an advancing stage towards welfare is termed as 'Gita' by Ved Vyas. Hence Gita is a social science of behaviour leading towards the desired end of wel-being. It is belived that metre of Gita is 'Anustubha' which is even today is greatly lulling,melodious,gracious and profound. A person who hears the 'Anustubha Chhand' loses himself in a deep profound ecstacy though he may be of any school of melody. And that may be the inner urge of Ved Vyas. Anustubha is coined through two subwords one 'Anu' and second 'Stubha'. 'Anu' means to follow and 'Stubha' means that desired stage of pursuit. Every canto of Gita begins with Atha and ends with 'Om tat sat eti' meaning that is true in this way only. The begining is made through Atha and end with Eti meaning in this way or like this. By 'Eti' Ved Vyas wants to suggerst that it is the only way of salvation and wel-being if one goes by that way. Gita is no historical account or individual chivalry.Every canto begins with 'Atha' and ends with 'Eti', 'Atha' means the teachings of previous thinkers and 'Eti' means his own opinion. And whatever has been said in the canto is totally surrendered to the Brahma and hence the end is glorified with the words 'Om tat sat eti'. Hence we may say that Gita is a practical philosophy of life that requries a soar of tendencies as displayed by Ved Vyas through Mahabharat. With this context only we may require to re-examine some cantos of Gita.

HRS Auditorium, KG Block & Library

HRS Auditorium, KG Block & Library


Do not be anxious about tomorrow, tomorrow will look after itself.--"Matthew" (6:34)Many philosophies advocate this, but it does not mean that you should leave everything and sit idle. It is for those people who are so anxious for tomorrow that they cannot think anything else. This affects your other daily activities which is harmful to keep balance in the life. And tomorrow means future, not in its literal meaning as "tomorrow" (the day after today). If you have your test tomorrow, you must care about it, you must prepare for it, you must do it well to pass it. It is not going to take care of itself.

“How to be Happy”Rachel Olsen, Senior Editor Online Devotions, P31 Speaker and AuthorKey Verse:“Don’t worry about anything, instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” Philippians 4:6 (NLT)Devotion:“Happy Thanksgiving!” people wish me repeatedly this week. Seems like everyone wishes for happiness. Everybody wants some. Everybody seeks it. Many people pretend to have it, yet few seem to truly possess it. Why is happiness so hard to find?Pssst … lean in closer… I will whisper where to find it … the fourth chapter of Philippians. Look up and read verses six through thirteen, or read them below in the Power Verses section.Notice in verse six, Paul gives three clear instructions for finding lasting contentment. He says: 1) not to worry2) pray about everything3) thank God for everythingWhat if today we took this instruction to heart and put it into practice? What if today we decided not to worry about anything? What if when we found ourselves worrying, we stopped and handed the situation over to God in prayer? What if we then thanked Him for taking care of the issue? In fact, what if we spent most of our mental free time today thinking about what good care our awesome God takes of us? What would happen then?Paul says in verse seven, if we begin to live this way we will experience amazing peace – a kind of peace we can’t even imagine. This kind of peace is so powerful that it has a protective function on our hearts and minds – which only makes it easier and easier for us to stop worrying and be thankful. That sounds like a state of happiness to me!In verse eight Paul elaborates on what to think about instead of our worries – whatever is good, true, honorable, pure, lovely, praise worthy, and right. Many things can fall into these categories, but Christ encompasses them all! This is not just “positive thinking,” this is spiritual thinking.Further down in Philippians 4:10-13, Paul goes on to attest personally to the truth of this 3-step process as he writes from a Roman prison. From behind bars Paul says, “I’ve learned how to get along happily whether I have much or little … I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little” (Phil. 4:11-12). Did you catch that verb? Paul LEARNED how to be happy and content. It didn’t just happen once he reached his goals. In fact, he claims his ability to be happy had nothing at all to do with his circumstances, but rather his increased trust in Christ.So happy contentedness is not something that comes once our waistlines have slimmed, our wrinkles are erased, our houses are clean and well furnished, our children are successful, our husbands dote on us, or our dreams are fulfilled. Instead it is learned as we become prayerful (verse 6) and thankful (verse 6), as we practice spiritual thinking (verse 8), and as we trust utterly in Christ (verse 13).I can’t think of a better day to start practicing Paul’s process of prayer, thankfulness, and “spiritual thinking” than today. Happy Thanksgiving!My Prayer for Today:Dear Lord, I’m turning over all my fears and problems to You to handle today. I can’t fix a single thing by worrying about it - but you can fix anything because nothing is impossible for You! Thank You for my blessings, big and small. Thank You for Your loving care for me. Thank You for being in charge of my day. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.Application Steps: Get out your Bible and highlight Philippians 4:6-7. Memorize those two verses.Reflection Points: Do I think about what is good, lovely, pure and right, or do I think about what is depressing, frustrating, unfair and wrong?Does thankfulness characterize me?Power Verses:Phillipians 4:6-9, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.” (NLT)

I just want to thank You, LORDfor every time that you’ve heard me prayI just want to thank Youfor always being therewhen I was so down and outYou came along and made me wanna shoutI just want to thank You, LORDthank You, LORD
I am thankful that GOD is up there, down here, all around, everywhere. I am thankful that I know no matter how lonely, sad, lonely, or hopeless AI might feel HE is with me at all times and with HIM I have everything to hope for. I am thankful that HE sent me HIS son Jesus Christ so that I may know HIM and someday be with them in my home above. I am thankful that no matter how disheartened I might become HE is always there with blessed assurance that in HIS time all will be fine. I am thankful that Jesus loved me so much that he died just so I could live.
I am also thankful for my sister, Nancy. If it wasn’t for her and the love I feel from her I probably wouldn’t be alive right now. I would have given up as a teenager. She has no idea how much she helped me tonight, just by hearing her voice. I was sitting here this evening, alone as usual, and slowly sinking yet again into my thoughts of pain and hopelessness. The devil kept whispering silent messages of doubt, heartache, and grief into my heart and again I was beginning to question whether or not GOD even cared. Then the phone rang and it was her. Last night she asked me if I would like to have Thanksgiving dinner with her at her dad’s house. I had planned on spending the day alone and no doubt crying. My mom asked me to go with her to my uncle’s house but I don’t want to go and be in the way of people that I know don’t want me there. When my sister asked me to go with her I told her I didn’t know but it probably wouldn’t be too good of an idea for me to go because I’d probably do nothing but cry watching the others with their families and me not having mine. But today she told me that her dad was all for me coming and that my brother, Bug, wants me to come too. So I might. I just don’t want to be the reason why anyone else doesn’t have a happy day. I’m still not sure if I’ll go. I don’t feel worthy to be around anyone, especially on days that are supposed to be festive. Mom won’t say she doesn’t want me to go but I can tell that she is ticked at the idea. Her and my grandma say they just want me to to ask questions about those out here. But anyway, I’m thankful that my sister wants me to have a little happiness.
Lately I’ve been thinking, "Am I worthy to ask GOD for anything at all let alone restoring my marriage?" I keep thinking that no I’m not, I’m too low for even GOD above to care anything about. Why do I let myself think these thoughts? I know I am. I hope I am. No, I KNOW that I am. GOD loves us all, even me. And I’m thankful for that and knowing that he is going to restore my marriage in HIS time. I am so thankful to know that HE will never give up on me.
This will be the second Thanksgiving I am going to spend without hubby beside me. They say time makes things easier but for me it keeps getting harder and harder. But I am trusting in GOD that if it’s HIS will this will be the last Thanksgiving I will be apart from him. What I wouldn’t give right how just to hear GOD’s heavenly voice telling me that my heart’s desires will be given to me soon. I guess that is what faith is for though…………
What I wouldn’t do right now for a phone call. A simple phone call. And to hear an I love you. And a don’t worry perhaps.
I am thankful for my hopeful heart telling me he does still love me.
Everyone this year as you’re sitting around your tables for a turkey dinner with those you all love, look around you, make a memory of all the faces and never forget it. You never know if you’ll be with those you love next year. It is hard to imagine them not being there, but try, can you? Don’t forget to tell them each and every one how much you love them and how much they mean to you. Next time they might not be there to hear it. And not just Thanksgiving, but every day be sure they know they have a little piece of your heart with them at all times. Two years ago I remember Wally holding my hand and not caring who seen and feeling so safe and loved. I never told him how special just holding my hand made me feel and how much those little memories meant to be, and how it was those little things that meant the most. I wish I had. Now he may never know.
GOD, please let him know how much I love him.
Happy Thanksgiving Christian and Wally. Goodnight and I love y’all!

HRS Auditorium

HRS Auditorium


Islamic teachings on the Importance of Parents Say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. - Quran 17:23
In Islam it is obligatory for us to show kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail. In fact kindness and obedience is so strongly emphasized that God has linked showing gratitude to one's parents with showing gratitude to God -
And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal. (31:14)
Sadly we are living in a time where children speaking disrespectfully to their parents and about their parents, is the norm rather than the exception. However Islam places great emphasis on respectful and considerate behaviour to even our enemies, so to not uphold the obligations laid down by God to our parents is actually one of the major sins.
In the QuranLet's see what the Quran says about Parents. This is the Book; in it is guidance sure, without doubt, to those who fear God (2:02)
Treat parents with honour & speak to them graciously & with humility
Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: My Lord! Bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood. (17:23)
Be grateful to parents but do not obey them if they strive to make you associate things with God
...Be grateful to Me and to both your parents; to Me is the eventual coming. But if they strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration), and follow the way of those who turn to me (in love): in the end the return of you all is to Me, then will I inform you of what you did (31:15)
These verses make it clear that we must honour our parents, appreciate their sacrifices and efforts for us, and do our best for them. This is required regardless of whether they are Muslims or not.
Be good to parents and everyone else who you meet
Serve God, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For God loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;- (4:36)
If the Quran tells us to be good to a stranger how can we even think of disrespecting our parents?
HadithsLet's see what Prophet Muhammad said about parents in the authentic Hadiths. Whatsoever the Prophet gives you, take it and whatsoever he forbids you, refrain from it. - Quran 59:7
Disobedience to parents is a major sin
Anas narrated from Prophet Muhammad about the major sins. He (Mohammed) observed: Associating anyone with God, disobedience to parents, killing a person and false utterance. (Muslim)
One of the dearest deeds to God is being good & dutiful to parents
Narrated 'Abdullah: I asked the Prophet "Which deed is the dearest to God?" He replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents"...(Bukhari)
Being dutiful to parents is one of the keys to enter Paradise
Abu Huraira reported Prophet Muhammad as saying: Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: God's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (because he has been undutiful to them). (Muslim)
Acts of kindness we can do for our parents after their death
While we were with Prophet Muhammad of God . A man of Banu Salmah came to Him and said: Apostle of God is there any kindness left that I can do to my parents after their death? He replied: Yes, you can invoke blessings on them, forgiveness for them, carry out their final instructions after their death, join ties of relationship which are dependent on them, and honour their friends. (Abu Dawood)
The High Status given to Mothers
A man came to the Prophet and asked him for permission to join a military expedition. The Prophet asked him if he had a mother, and when he replied that he had, he said, "Stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet." (Ahmad)
Sometimes we may take our parents for granted and overlook their importance. As Muslims we should constantly be alert to guard ourselves from sins, however, are we guarding ourselves from one of the biggest major sins? Are we honouring and respecting our parents as per their right? Or are we neglecting one of the deeds most dearest to God? Right now the choice is ours!
We ask God the Most High, the All-Powerful, to teach us that which will benefit us, and to benefit us by that which we learn.

HRS Garden of Seasonal Plants

HRS Garden of Seasonal Plants



There are times these days when I feel a little like the Ancient Mariner-- or, at least, the Ancient Parent. There are so many youngish men and women pushing strollers and carrying babies on their backs that I keep feeling I should waylay some of these former members of wedding parties and communicate some of the things I have learned in twenty years as a father.
There are three things-- at least-- that I want to tell all those earnest young stroller pushers, and I usually want to start by assuring them you really do get more out of parenthood than you put into it. It is, if all goes well, full of little pleasures and adventures, and there is one aspect of it that is absolutely unique. When you raise a child, you get to do two things that are profoundly satisfying. You give the world to another human being, and you give another human being to the world.
There is no other occupation, as far as I know, in which you can do that. And the nice thing about it-- considering the magnitude of the achievement-- is that it's relatively easy. You just have to decide you want to do it. The world, after all, is already there. I didn't have to write The Prisoner of Zenda or Doctor Dolittle. I just had to read them to my son. Anthony Hope and Hugh Lofting did all the really hard work. I just had to make the introductions.

My second message is closely related to the first. You must never forget that you have responsibilities to the world, as well as to the child. A lot of parents, it seems to me, become intensely preoccupied with their child's welfare, and forget they are also supposed to protect the world from the monsters we are all capable of becoming.
People who really like their children want their children to like them, too, and that makes it hard to say no. It helps, in my experience, if you remember that you are a sworn and properly accredited agent of the entire human community, with full responsibility for the lives and property of four and one half billion human beings and everything they and their ancestors have created in the last few million years.
There is, as the saying goes, some bad news and some good news, and parents are the diplomats who must convey it to the aliens who have landed in their homes. The bad news, kid, is that the residents of this planet aren't allowed to rob, murder, and rape their neighbors. The good news is that your neighbors aren't supposed to rob, murder, and rape you.
If you can keep that fundamental bargain, furthermore, you get a bonus. You don't have to cower cold and bored in the wilderness. You get to sit in comfortable rooms and do interesting things.
If you're going to raise a child, in other words, I think it helps if you like the part of the world people have made. The more things you like, the more things you can give to your child. The more things the child likes, the easier it is to put up with all those irksome restrictions on theft and murder.

The last item on my agenda may be the most urgent. It's something I especially want to tell all those modern parents who think their children should be reading Scientific American before they enter nursery school-- and all those old fashioned parents who are afraid their children will turn into loafers and ne'er do wells if they don't flog them every time they forget to squeeze the toothpaste tube from the bottom. The most important thing you can give your children is a good relationship with their parents.
Our relationship with our parents is one of the cornerstones of the human personality. Our parents, after all, are the first people we have to deal with. If that relationship works out well, then there's a good chance it will set a pattern for all the relationships that will come later.
Nobody wants their kid to be a bum. Getting into Harvard is very nice. But don't let your natural concern about such matters interfere with something that is far more important. Children who like their parents-- and know their parents like them-- will go into the world with a piece of equipment that is worth a dozen degrees and several dozen lectures on punctuality and good manners.

Many years ago, in an article by the author of A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, I came across Balzac's definition of a full life: to write a book, to plant a tree, to raise a child. I think it's significant that Balzac wasn't talking about a pleasant life or a comfortable life, or a life without responsibility and anxiety. If you're the kind of person who places a high value on your own personal pleasure and comfort-- if you don't like to commit yourself to responsibilities that may be "too restricting" or that may "alter your lifestyle"-- then you are probably making the right choice if you decide not to have children. But if you share Balzac's hunger for a full life, I think I can tell you he was right.

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Dear Children,

You are:-

The messengers of the Almighty
The happiness and hope of your homes
The next generation of the nation &
The driving force of your dear ones
You can:-

Create history by hard work
Change the destiny of the world
Sow the seeds of lasting peace &
Harvest the heaven of happiness
You must:-

Believe in God and bloom in life
Be global citizens with great Indian values
Move ahead with modesty and humility &
Make a mark, not just be one in many

“Everyday belongs to you, as everyone loves you”

Best wishes on Children’s Day.


Monday, April 27, 2009


Sex education is mandatory at the secondary school level. Government has been debating and banning sex education in schools and their ignorance is not bliss. People have a prejudice regarding sex education and feels that sex education is a way of enticing or encouraging young children in to having a sexual relationship. In fact it is the necessary for young children aged 11 and above should know about the biological aspect of sex and understand the human physiological body. They also should be educated on all sexually transmitted disease including HIV, pregnancy and discretion over use of contraception like condoms to prevent the above can be imparted to more mature students who have just passed the puberty phase rather than kids who have not attained puberty.

The Sex education should be contexed like this.
Human Physiology with sex difference in male in females
Onset of puberty with hormonal changes in the human male and female body impacting the physical change in the human body like change in voice, face and in the pubic area.

Explanation of the need for sexual union: The sexual hormones in Humans are the cause for the physical pleasure and physical pleasure is the required for humans to reproduce and survival of the species. If Physical pleasure is taken way humans will not feel the need to reproduce and humans would have become extinct. The sexual hormones and the pleasure are hard wired in human body and emerge during adolescent after onset of puberty and due to this Adolescent children can get carried away by the sudden hormonal drive and tendency to react to the act of sex.

Advice to be given on Sexual absistance: Adolescent children are susceptible to quickly act on the physical sexual drive and get carried away. One has to mature and understand the consequence of having sex just for the fun. It involves physical, emotional entanglement. If at all sex is experimented proper care has to be taken using contraception like condoms which are safe and prevent pregnancy and sexual transmitted diseases.

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What Can Parents Do About Asynchronous Development?Nothing can be done to change the way children develop, so asynchronous development can't be corrected or altered. However, life in a home with an asynchronous child can be made easier when parents understand that development. Here are some quick tips:
Recognize that a gifted child's emotional and social development will not always match his or her intellectual development. Before responding to your child's emotional outburst or concluding that your child is socially or emotionally immature, stop a moment to remind yourself of your child's chronological age.
Understand that asynchronous development creates special needs. For example, gifted children need emotional support as do all children, but they also need advanced intellectual stimulation. A gifted four-year-old who can discuss black holes still needs comforting hugs.
Recognize that gifted children may not get their emotional, social, and intellectual needs met by the same peers. This means that they may be able to socialize to a degree with children their own age, but may also need opportunities to interact with other gifted children, older children, or even adults. Parents should make every effort to provide these opportunities.
More Gifted Children Quick Tips


What Is an Indigo Child?
What is an Indigo Child? And why do we call them Indigo? First, the definition: an Indigo Child is one who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes and shows a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before. This pattern has common unique factors that suggest that those who interact with them (parents, in particular) change their treatment and upbringing of them in order to achieve balance. To ignore these new patterns is to potentially create imbalance and frustration in the mind of this precious new life. The subject of this chapter is to identify, qualify, and validate the attributes of an Indigo Child. There seem to be several kinds of Indigos, and we will describe them later in this chapter, but in the following list we can give you some of the most common behavioral patterns. Do these fit anyone you know? Here are ten of the most common traits of Indigo Children:

1. They come into the world with a feeling of royalty (and often act like it).
2. They have a feeling of "deserving to be here," and are surprised when others don't share that.
3. Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents "who they are."
4. They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).
5. They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
6. They get frustrated with systems that are ritual-oriented and don't require creative thought.
7. They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like "system busters" (nonconforming to any system).
8. They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.
9. They will not respond to "guilt" discipline ("Wait till your father gets home and finds out what you did").
10. They are not shy in letting you know what they need.We will examine some of these traits later in a closer way, but next we wish to let you know why these children are called Indigo. Throughout the history of psychology, there have been systems of grouping human behavior. Indeed, often we all seem to fall into "clumps" of behavior patterns, sometimes fun to read about and identify. These groupings try to identify and correlate human actions in many different ways--undoubtedly searching for someformula that neatly fits everyone into a slot of some kind, helping those who deal with the study of the human mind. Some of these systems are ancient; some are very new. For those who think that classifying humans according to color groupings is weird and only for those interested in metaphysics, we would like to let you know about a brand new book called The Color Code: A New Way to See Yourself, Your Relationships, and Life by Hartman Taylor, Ph.D.3 This book has nothing whatsoeverto do with the Indigo Children. We only mention it here to show you that the association of colors with human attributes is not just for the spooky group! Hartman's book deals with the Hippocratic or medieval model for typing personalities--sanguine, melancholy, phlegmatic, and choleric--and assigns colors to them: red, blue, white, and yellow. As we mentioned, Nancy Tappe's color groupings are intuitive, but are also very accurate, based on practical observation. One of the color groups in her work is--you guessed it--Indigo. This color classification reveals the new type of child very accurately . . . and did so 17 years ago! (At least someone was paying attention.) We think Nancy is owed kudos for her insight and awareness of humannature. If you are interested in such things as prophecy, chapter 3 will reveal a television personality who actually predicted the new "dark blue" children!

Gandhi said, "Our ability to reach unity in diversity will be the beauty and test of our civilization."


Many of us at times have been upset. Being upset is a part of life. Not all things will go the way you want them to go. When this upset turns to anger we must be careful how we handle ourselves.
Here are 4 steps to control your anger and have it vent in proper ways.
1. Count to 10 when you are getting upset. This is a normal way that we have all heard. We have heard it because it works if you practice it. Count to 10 and you may solve many of your outbursts before they happen.
2. Do something that is physically exerting. Instead of punching a wall or a person, go run around the house, or mow the yard. Go for a walk, swim, bikeride, or shoot some hoops. This can provide a physical outlet for your emotions.
3. Find something that is calming. Try deep breathing from your diaphragm. Take 10 deep calming breaths. This can be very soothing for most people. Combine this with step 1 and count to 10 slowly while breathing.
4. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. I am frustrated because you didn’t help with the housework, instead of You didn’t help me with the housework. This helps in multiple ways one is your way of thinking is a bit better and you also do not upset the other person so that both parties are angry. Which of course is not a good outcome for anyone.
You can combine multiple steps above to help alleviate anger. Don’t hold it in, but don’t blow up. Calm yourself down and talk about it by using step number 4 above. Go for a swim or a nice shower, and you can alleviate the stresses that cause unhealthy anger.


When asked to list qualities they want in a teacher, students tend to give high ratings to a sense of humor and fairness—but they typically find it difficult to define these qualities. It seems a matter of recognizing something when we experience it without being able to precisely define it.
My May 2000 column (The Purpose and Nature of Language) discussed the concept of fuzzy categories, such as chair and vegetable, that seem to defy precise definition—and my March 2001 column (Our Continuous Search for Fairness) discussed the concept of fairness, which is often differentially viewed by the competing folks in a dispute. Humor is another important complex concept with a fuzzy definition. Let's explore just one key element of this broad concept.
A sense of humor in a teacher involves more than simply telling jokes. Rather, it seems to deal more with a teacher's ability to pleasantly communicate that current behavior is approaching the edge of what's considered normal and/or acceptable.
We're a social species, functioning principally within a normal range of biologically possible and culturally appropriate behavior. It makes sense. The biological cost/benefit ratio would be too high for a lifespan and behavioral capabilities that go well beyond our current normal ranges. Similarly, a social species must behave within an appropriate cultural range if it's to successfully collaborate on survival and reproductive tasks.
Young people frequently push at the edges of what's possible and appropriate, since they'll never truly understand normality if they don't discover where it ends (the Olympics being our periodic formal search for selected physical limits). And since young people often lack the experience and maturity of self-assessment, they expect others to help let them know when they've gone too far—albeit with a sense of humor.
Think of a behavioral continuum that ranges from abnormally negative to normal to abnormally positive. We all need to know how others view our behavior along this continuum. As our behavior moves towards and into the abnormally negative, others typically let us know with an escalating sequence of responses from simple frowns to outbursts of anger, disgust, and alarm. At the positive end, the sequence shifts from smiles and gentle encouragement to effuse joy and praise.
As suggested above, we could thus view an important much-appreciated element of a teacher's sense of humor as a pleasant non-threatening technique for letting students know that they're moving towards the edge. The teacher inserts an appreciated non-critical smile prior to a frown—intonation and body language communicating that everything's OK for now, but I'm watching you. This gives the student a chance to consider whether or not to proceed.
Students also appreciate the verbal and body language that communicates the teacher's early awareness of behavior that's just beginning to move towards the positive edge of the continuum. It's initial but escalating encouragement to go further, beyond the normal range. It communicates, ?I know you can do it, go for it!'
The term kidding is often positively associated with a teacher's sense of humor. Sarcasm isn't. To be effective, the indirect language and intonation of kidding must imply a genuine love of and respect for the person being kidded, even though the actual words may suggest negative connotations.
Young children often can't correctly interpret kidding. Our right frontal lobes appear to process the verbal and affective discrepancies that play an important role in humor (and thus in kidding). The immature frontal lobes of young children can't process subtle categorical discrepancies (such as in the puns and word play of kidding). They tend rather to enjoy the humor of broad discrepancies (such as in slapstick humor). Adults thus tend to be direct when advising young children and more indirect with adolescents.
Humor often results in laughter, an ill-understood instinctive contagious emotional outburst that can both bond and humiliate people. Dr. Robert Provine has researched the biological and social underpinnings of laughter, and published his findings in a fascinating informative book, Laughter: A Scientific Investigation (2000, Viking).
Since positive laughter has the potential to enhance the health of individual students and group cohesion (communicating to each other, in effect, ?we all understand what's occurring and it's at the edge'), it's not surprising that students intuitively appreciate teachers with the sense of humor that creates a joyful non-threatening classroom. The students perhaps can't precisely define the concept, but they certainly do appreciate its ability to reduce anxiety.